Adultery. In the past year, we’ve watched the biggest and the strongest men in government and other leadership posts fall prey to it, losing their jobs, their spouses and the respect of all who knew them. Why?
Why? That question keeps buzzing us every time we hear of another “strong man” who falls prey to life’s oldest temptation and commits adultery. In the past year, we’ve watched the biggest and the strongest men in government and other leadership posts fall prey to it -- losing their jobs, their spouses and the respect of all who knew them. Why?
Oh, come on ... I’m old enough to know what sexual temptation is all about and how hard it is to resist it. I’ve even been the target of it on several occasions in my younger years. I didn’t always look like a little old lady! As for the myth that it’s harder for men to resist it than for women — that's a lame excuse. Many women can have just as strong an urge as men. Witness Cleopatra and a few other famous sex idols.
While we’re on history, why is it that Eve gets all the blame for what happened in the Garden of Eden? If Adam were as strong as men are portrayed, why didn’t he say to Eve, “Lady, don’t even go near that apple. You heard what the Big Boss told us. So get away from that tree or I’ll have to stop you.” If Adam was the Big Guy, why didn’t he stop it? Why blame Eve?
Back in today’s world, I hate it when famous public men caught in adultery come to the microphone and say, “Awww, I just yielded to temptation.” As if that’s a sufficient excuse to let them off the hook. Using taxpayer’s money to go to a lover’s tryst in Argentina ... and all you can say is “It was wrong, but I love her!”
If you break your vows to your wife that easily, how easy is it to break your promise to your voters?
I don’t think it’s asking too much of a man or woman to be faithful to marriage vows, despite the real temptations of hot sex, not only in persons around us, but on TV and every printed page. A favorite “Papa story” happened a week after Mama’s funeral.
I was washing dishes while Papa read the paper. Suddenly, he came over and said, “I want you to know something. I was never unfaithful to your mama.”
Hiding my surprise at such a topic, I replied, “No one ever thought you did! Secondly, you were 36 when Mama became paralyzed ... if you had fallen to temptation once we would have understood.”
His answer: “No. I made a vow at the altar and I kept it.” With that he walked away, while I wondered, “What in the world brought that up?” Two minutes later he’s back, says with a twinkle, “Hey, don’t think I never had a chance to!”
I think that sums it up. I know many other good men who choose not to yield to temptation. They’re not weak pussycats. Men understand both the reality and their urges. But real men know how to control it and keep their promises.
This applies to both men and women. Don’t think for a moment that we women with strong sexual makeup haven’t been tempted by the good-looker next door. But real strength comes in not jumping off a cliff, even though it looks like the flight down might be exhilarating fun.
Jean Nero is a contributor to The Repository in Canton, Ohio. This column is the opinion of the writer and not of the newspaper.